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Enneatype
Nine
People who are
receptive to their environment and play down their own presence. When healthy
they often are loving, modest and trusting. When unhealthy they can be
stubborn, lazy and soul-dead.
Unlike Eights, who directly express their anger, Nines
tamp their anger down. Their central defensive strategy is to self-efface,
to blend with and accommodate their environment. This tactic requires that
Nines suppress their rough edges and conceal any part of them that might
seem disagreeable. Most Nines resent the consequences of this strategy:
people overlook them but even their anger comes out in indirect ways.
Since most Nines have taken on the coloration of their
environment, there is a confusing variety to people with this style. They
can have a wide range of occupations and outwardly appear much different
from each other. What they share underneath, however, is a distinct tendency
to fall asleep to their inner needs. When you are trying to identify a
Nine, you need to look for the absence of something rather than an obvious
definite quality that the person asserts.
Nines have sometimes been described as the common people
of the Enneagram. When healthy, they possess a deep personal modesty and
an elegant simplicity of thought. Healthy Nines are even-tempered, stable,
unassuming, nonjudgmental and comfortable with who they are. They often
have a cheerful Seven-like outlook, though they live in the present and
not the future.
Many Nines have a calm, egoless focused power that they
bring to bear on whatever is important to them. This power is generally
rooted in love whether the Nine thinks of it that way or not. Most healthy
people with this style want to give to others freely and administrate their
world in a way that benefits those they care about.
Nines are natural diplomats and mediators and can be highly
skilled at resolving conflicts. Since they seek peace, union and harmony,
it is often easy for Nines to find points of agreement between warring
parties. From there, a Nine might patiently negotiate a settlement that
builds on small positive steps. Healthy Nines are gently dynamic, suffused
with a highly integrated sense of self and implicit mission. Most are also
flexible and able to state blunt difficult truths in useful ways that somehow
don’t make others defensive.
When less healthy, a Nine’s modesty devolves into self-concealment.
They begin to merge blindly with the wishes of others and play the roles
their environment wants them to play. In the process, they erase their
own needs, priorities and ambitions, hiding their opinions and preferences
to keep an apparent peace. The more a Nine absents herself from her own
life, however, the more passive, unfocused and ambivalent she becomes.
Less healthy Nines tend to see all sides of a situation
and identify equally with each outside perspective. They often focus on
absurd or irrelevant details and lose the big picture or forget the original
purpose of a task. They can be overly responsible but under-perform, obsessively
complicating simple tasks even as they minimize the consequence of not
getting important things done. Going in circles relieves them of the necessity
to make decisions and personal choices, to take responsibility for having
a self that they think might be rejected by others.
Nines often have trouble overtly saying no, but will say
it in other ways, usually through silent stubbornness and passive aggression.
Nines usually blame others explicitly or indirectly for the life they feel
they can’t really have. Deep down there’s an angry, depressed nihilism
in most unhealthy Nines. They have given up on their life and see no reason
to rouse themselves to play what they are convinced is an empty, fruitless
game.
When deeply unhealthy, Nines can sink into depressed self-neglect
and a kind of lazy oblivion that is an imitation of death. They may be
apathetic, habit-bound, callous or numb. They could talk incessantly about
what they know they should do but then never bother to do it. They might
try to avoid conflict but accidentally provoke it through bursts of disassociated
nastiness. They might be disorderly, chaotic or cluttered and offer convoluted,
ill-formed rationales for their irresponsibility. Deeply unhealthy Nines
can do great harm to others through neglect, broken commitments and passive-aggressive
behavior while stubbornly believing that their actions have no consequence.
Drug and alcohol addiction can also be problems at this stage.
About the Contributor:
Thomas Condon has worked with the Enneagram since 1980. He has taught
classes at schools like Antioch University, and the University of California,
Berkeley, as well as hundreds of workshops in the U.S., Asia, and Europe.
He is the author of 50 audiotapes, 19 videotapes and two books, soon to
be more. You can find more information like this, his books, and his tapes
at his wesite here.
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